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A Tribute to the Dads
A tribute to the dadsš. Our hubbies both walked a process with animals, the farm, us, their partners, and many people throughout their lives that they supported and continue to support directly or indirectly – to learn about responsibility, accountability, stability, directiveness and strength, but also about care, tenderness, gentleness, compassion, dedication, warmth and expression. …
Given Innocence vs Created Innocence
After my latest blog Iāve been mulling over the concept of āInnocenceā. Thereās always been a draw to regain my childhood innocence ā and at the same a resistance, a conflict. When I looked deeper into my desire for childhood innocence, I saw that it was more a draw towards ignorance. A draw towards ānot …
Cesar and Critters
Cesar is into #beetles once more. He has been gathering every single beetle he can find and dropping it off in @sunettespies ‘s new rose garden. The roses were a wedding gift and now Cesar decided to give Sunette beetles as a wedding gift that can live among the roses. We’ve been seeing quite a …
Discovering True Kindness
What does kindness mean? How have I been living kindness? Have I been truly kind to myself and others, or have I been micro-managing myself to ‘fit in’? How we define a word affects our relationship with ourselves, our children and everyone else around us. Maite opens up her relationship with the word kindness, how …
From Living like a Zombie to Living with ZEST
This post is a continuation to the post āZombie-Mode| How we Choose to be Incapacitatedā wherein I opened up my āZombie-Modeā experience that I would find myself stuck in from time to time. Itās an experience of feeling tired, lethargic, wanting to āsave your batteriesā, feeling listless, bored, uninterested, wanting to do nothing. Interestingly, itās …
Inner Child, Outer Child
Seeing the type of mother I want to be for Syntia and all the ways I am willing to support her, has been a great source of inspiration to change my relationship with myself. In this podcast, I share an experience that came up when Syntia was sick (those challenging times tend to really bring …
![Cesar gave Syntia his train tracks about a year ago, and before they were hers, she would play with them together with Cesar. She's had a ton of time to learn the different pieces, how to put them together and build a track, but for some reason, she DID NOT want to build a track by herself and most of all preferred to just watch as someone else built the track for her.
Lj and I knew she was perfectly capable of building a track for herself and we tried to support her to start small and show herself that she can do it. Or that we'd be here if she gets stuck, but she can at least try on her own. Any such attempts, however, were met with an absolute and firm refusal. So, we did it with her, or for her.
We started wondering, is this little girl really just taking advantage of us at this point? Are we entertaining this too much? Should we push harder? We knew she could do it, she knew she could do it, but for some reason she just didn't want to do it, at least, not yet.
And then one day, out of the blue, she takes out her blocks and starts building a track... by herself. Lj quietly waived me over, pointing at her, then signing 'shhht', lol - didn't want to disturb the moment. The track you see in the pic is the first one she built by herself. It wasn't a "beginner's" track like a simple circle or a straight line, it was a more intricate design laid out exactly and precisely how she wanted it to be, including all the elements she wanted to have as a part of it. Kabam, out of the blue.
There are other things where Syntia 'took her sweet time', like learning how to walk and potty training, where it was clear at some point that she was able to do it, but for some reason, pulled back or didn't want to do it all by herself just yet. It's so easy as parents to freak out over that, to think that children should develop skills in a particular way, like 'starting small' or doing something by yourself as soon as you're able to. But not all kids are the same in this. [Continued in comments..]](https://scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.29350-15/135216034_868657797266702_107582540258970761_n.jpg?_nc_cat=105&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=8ae9d6&_nc_ohc=YW0BFh5jCagAX8o4-_O&_nc_ht=scontent-sea1-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&oh=00_AfAu5PXgozAsoNXkk2oVpvh6PLzszyXUuzDSKFLhABau9A&oe=647E3CD2)
