Cesar literally playing with fire. Fire is one of his big fascinations, and he welcomes stormy nights when the power goes out 
lots of candles). When I was young I did not get much experience with fire. Once, I set a paper tissue on fire (I was playing in secret, I was not to ever get close to fire), freaked out and threw the tissue in the garbage bin. Cause you know, the garbage bin is essentially a black hole and whatever you throw in there is just ‘gone’. My mother noticed my awkward walk away from the bin and asked what I threw into it. “Nothing!!“ I exclaimed, cause I knew I wasn’t supposed to play with fire and if I say ‘a flaming tissue’ that would have been total admittance of my disobedience. Luckily, she checked the bin and got to put the fire out… Having a little one now myself, we let him play with fire and explore the limits he is comfortable with (which goes waaaay beyond my own limit!!!). We provide him a safe space and explain what could happen and what to do if it happens. It’s not always easy for me, but I remind myself of my own mistakes and what I am in the long run preventing.
What are your kids up to that can raise the hairs on your neck, and move yourself to stay cool and work through your own fears? 
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![Cesar gave Syntia his train tracks about a year ago, and before they were hers, she would play with them together with Cesar. She's had a ton of time to learn the different pieces, how to put them together and build a track, but for some reason, she DID NOT want to build a track by herself and most of all preferred to just watch as someone else built the track for her.
Lj and I knew she was perfectly capable of building a track for herself and we tried to support her to start small and show herself that she can do it. Or that we'd be here if she gets stuck, but she can at least try on her own. Any such attempts, however, were met with an absolute and firm refusal. So, we did it with her, or for her.
We started wondering, is this little girl really just taking advantage of us at this point? Are we entertaining this too much? Should we push harder? We knew she could do it, she knew she could do it, but for some reason she just didn't want to do it, at least, not yet.
And then one day, out of the blue, she takes out her blocks and starts building a track... by herself. Lj quietly waived me over, pointing at her, then signing 'shhht', lol - didn't want to disturb the moment. The track you see in the pic is the first one she built by herself. It wasn't a "beginner's" track like a simple circle or a straight line, it was a more intricate design laid out exactly and precisely how she wanted it to be, including all the elements she wanted to have as a part of it. Kabam, out of the blue.
There are other things where Syntia 'took her sweet time', like learning how to walk and potty training, where it was clear at some point that she was able to do it, but for some reason, pulled back or didn't want to do it all by herself just yet. It's so easy as parents to freak out over that, to think that children should develop skills in a particular way, like 'starting small' or doing something by yourself as soon as you're able to. But not all kids are the same in this. [Continued in comments..]](https://scontent-dfw5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.29350-15/135216034_868657797266702_107582540258970761_n.jpg?_nc_cat=105&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=c4dd86&_nc_ohc=Z1V8WJUUqosAX-4LmjA&_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&oh=00_AfCJjAXVxtNiIi6gvUUl0MZd6cdkXtaHW6r2JeZgYPVE-A&oe=64DB2E92)
