A moment of grace for me on a busy day – Leila took Syntia on her lap and took care both of her and Cesar, freeing me up to enjoy a nice warm cup of coffee. Sometimes it takes a mom to understand exactly what you need as a mom… I’m so lucky and grateful to have Leila here with me day in and day out to learn from, share struggles with and come up with ideas and solutions for either or both of our kids and of course, ourselves.
Syntia and Cesar have cautiously started spending more time together, exploring the boundaries and limits of their shared reality and shared communication and interest levels. For Leila and I it means more moments of co-mothering our kids – sometimes on our own, sometimes together. I am keen to see how this further develops as Syntia gets older and more mobile. How will her relationship with Cesar evolve, how will it impact our parenting and how we spend our time, how we organize our days, what opportunities and learning moments will come from this, …
Many questions, many unknowns… *Breathing in and out*… Let’s walk and find out 😉
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![Cesar gave Syntia his train tracks about a year ago, and before they were hers, she would play with them together with Cesar. She's had a ton of time to learn the different pieces, how to put them together and build a track, but for some reason, she DID NOT want to build a track by herself and most of all preferred to just watch as someone else built the track for her.
Lj and I knew she was perfectly capable of building a track for herself and we tried to support her to start small and show herself that she can do it. Or that we'd be here if she gets stuck, but she can at least try on her own. Any such attempts, however, were met with an absolute and firm refusal. So, we did it with her, or for her.
We started wondering, is this little girl really just taking advantage of us at this point? Are we entertaining this too much? Should we push harder? We knew she could do it, she knew she could do it, but for some reason she just didn't want to do it, at least, not yet.
And then one day, out of the blue, she takes out her blocks and starts building a track... by herself. Lj quietly waived me over, pointing at her, then signing 'shhht', lol - didn't want to disturb the moment. The track you see in the pic is the first one she built by herself. It wasn't a "beginner's" track like a simple circle or a straight line, it was a more intricate design laid out exactly and precisely how she wanted it to be, including all the elements she wanted to have as a part of it. Kabam, out of the blue.
There are other things where Syntia 'took her sweet time', like learning how to walk and potty training, where it was clear at some point that she was able to do it, but for some reason, pulled back or didn't want to do it all by herself just yet. It's so easy as parents to freak out over that, to think that children should develop skills in a particular way, like 'starting small' or doing something by yourself as soon as you're able to. But not all kids are the same in this. [Continued in comments..]](https://scontent-sjc3-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.29350-15/135216034_868657797266702_107582540258970761_n.jpg?_nc_cat=105&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=8ae9d6&_nc_ohc=YW0BFh5jCagAX8o4-_O&_nc_ht=scontent-sjc3-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&oh=00_AfBhXgh4yfKWeKNlAe9OjkZnGrx_7rBgpzJLI-XfTrhddA&oe=647C4292)
