How often do we use manipulation tactics to get our children to behave in a way that we think is best? Even when we have on a conscious level let go of the practice of punishing and rewarding, we’ll at times notice ourselves trying to assert ourselves as authority, or inadvertently deny them the opportunity …
A theme that has been recurring in my life is that of redeeming myself through the eyes of those whom I deem innocent. For most of my life, animals were my main target for this quest. As a child, I would look into the eyes of animals and would see a well of innocence in …
This post is a continuation to the post ‘The thought of Losing My Child’ and ‘Fear of Losing my Child – Self-Forgiveness (Part 1)‘. After sharing my experience during the time Syntia had tickbite fever, I received awesome support from several moms, including Leila’s post ‘The death of my child, the death of me’. After …
Over the course of (almost) five years, in having become a mother and engaging myself in more parenting and mother related social circles – I’ve seen a lot of sad news of young babies and children passing away. My first instinct upon seeing this news or even mention of it – was a sudden sadness …
Lj and I decided to take Syntia and the dogs for a walk around the farm. Something we were both looking forward to – the weather was perfect and we hadn’t gone for a walk with all of us together in quite some time. Of course, there is nothing like personal emotional reactions suddenly rearing …
In this video Leila shares her experience in comparing herself to other mothers and getting stuck in bouncing up and down in lifting herself up and breaking down. She explores why jealousy and competition thrive when we are actually inherently insecure about ourselves and the responsibility we carry. What have your experiences been with dynamics …
That moment you realize that you should probably start keeping your make up on a higher shelf level #candidmoment #makeup #toddler #preschooler #kidsofinstagram #instakids #lipstick #pink #motherhood #nothingssafe #artistic #beyondgender #parenting #consciousparenting #awareparenting #fun #children #childhood #boundtohappen That moment you realize you should have moved the make up then and there… #postponement #procrastination #makeup …
When we come into this world, we assume all is as it should be. We have absolute trust in our parents and our environment. We enter this world, into the current that is our life. As the water flows, we are carried through different sceneries, different environments and different motions as experiences. Along the way, …
![Cesar gave Syntia his train tracks about a year ago, and before they were hers, she would play with them together with Cesar. She's had a ton of time to learn the different pieces, how to put them together and build a track, but for some reason, she DID NOT want to build a track by herself and most of all preferred to just watch as someone else built the track for her.
Lj and I knew she was perfectly capable of building a track for herself and we tried to support her to start small and show herself that she can do it. Or that we'd be here if she gets stuck, but she can at least try on her own. Any such attempts, however, were met with an absolute and firm refusal. So, we did it with her, or for her.
We started wondering, is this little girl really just taking advantage of us at this point? Are we entertaining this too much? Should we push harder? We knew she could do it, she knew she could do it, but for some reason she just didn't want to do it, at least, not yet.
And then one day, out of the blue, she takes out her blocks and starts building a track... by herself. Lj quietly waived me over, pointing at her, then signing 'shhht', lol - didn't want to disturb the moment. The track you see in the pic is the first one she built by herself. It wasn't a "beginner's" track like a simple circle or a straight line, it was a more intricate design laid out exactly and precisely how she wanted it to be, including all the elements she wanted to have as a part of it. Kabam, out of the blue.
There are other things where Syntia 'took her sweet time', like learning how to walk and potty training, where it was clear at some point that she was able to do it, but for some reason, pulled back or didn't want to do it all by herself just yet. It's so easy as parents to freak out over that, to think that children should develop skills in a particular way, like 'starting small' or doing something by yourself as soon as you're able to. But not all kids are the same in this. [Continued in comments..]](https://scontent-dfw5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.29350-15/135216034_868657797266702_107582540258970761_n.jpg?_nc_cat=105&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=c4dd86&_nc_ohc=Z1V8WJUUqosAX-4LmjA&_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&oh=00_AfCJjAXVxtNiIi6gvUUl0MZd6cdkXtaHW6r2JeZgYPVE-A&oe=64DB2E92)
