To date, the most challenging experience I’ve come across is seeing my daughter being ill and facing the thought of losing her. In this podcast I share what happened to Syntia in recent weeks and how I in turn reacted to what was unfolding. To be honest, this is not an experience I know how to ‘solve’, I don’t have the answer – but I do know that I will continue to support myself in which ever way I can so that I can stand and be here as a support for Syntia no matter what she goes through. There will be more recordings or posts on this topic to follow, in the meantime – please feel free to share your own experiences, tips and suggestions – I can use all the mommy wisdom in the world on this!
![Cesar gave Syntia his train tracks about a year ago, and before they were hers, she would play with them together with Cesar. She's had a ton of time to learn the different pieces, how to put them together and build a track, but for some reason, she DID NOT want to build a track by herself and most of all preferred to just watch as someone else built the track for her.
Lj and I knew she was perfectly capable of building a track for herself and we tried to support her to start small and show herself that she can do it. Or that we'd be here if she gets stuck, but she can at least try on her own. Any such attempts, however, were met with an absolute and firm refusal. So, we did it with her, or for her.
We started wondering, is this little girl really just taking advantage of us at this point? Are we entertaining this too much? Should we push harder? We knew she could do it, she knew she could do it, but for some reason she just didn't want to do it, at least, not yet.
And then one day, out of the blue, she takes out her blocks and starts building a track... by herself. Lj quietly waived me over, pointing at her, then signing 'shhht', lol - didn't want to disturb the moment. The track you see in the pic is the first one she built by herself. It wasn't a "beginner's" track like a simple circle or a straight line, it was a more intricate design laid out exactly and precisely how she wanted it to be, including all the elements she wanted to have as a part of it. Kabam, out of the blue.
There are other things where Syntia 'took her sweet time', like learning how to walk and potty training, where it was clear at some point that she was able to do it, but for some reason, pulled back or didn't want to do it all by herself just yet. It's so easy as parents to freak out over that, to think that children should develop skills in a particular way, like 'starting small' or doing something by yourself as soon as you're able to. But not all kids are the same in this. [Continued in comments..]](https://scontent-dfw5-1.cdninstagram.com/v/t51.29350-15/135216034_868657797266702_107582540258970761_n.jpg?_nc_cat=105&ccb=1-7&_nc_sid=c4dd86&_nc_ohc=Z1V8WJUUqosAX-4LmjA&_nc_ht=scontent-dfw5-1.cdninstagram.com&edm=ANo9K5cEAAAA&oh=00_AfCJjAXVxtNiIi6gvUUl0MZd6cdkXtaHW6r2JeZgYPVE-A&oe=64DB2E92)
Hello!!Matie !!I am not sure if You speak german..i mention many times about new german medicine ,dr.Hammer -who was genius of our time ,I wish that there is more info in english-but there is not now ,check on you tube dr.Hammer work.As antibiotic food grade hydroperoxide -ask Randy Kraft -he knows more about it .The oregano oil and garlic oil has quality of antibiotic .Also can You used Sunnette ask her as a portal -how can she support about .I wish you all best .Definetelly homeopathy work.I don’t have to much experience with sick children .What you describe ticks not only carry Lyme bacteria but many different bacteria also,so this could be infection .
I don’t speak German – but maybe Google Translate can help me out ;). Syntia made it through the disease and is back to her normal happy self with only homeopathy as support, so this definitely is an experience that already helps me for the next time, though need to open up my own relationship with illness, disease, medication, etc because I realized to what extent I relied on meds to ‘take care of the illness for me’ and me not really taking any directive action or stance when I get ill myself, so I’ll have to walk this for myself so that Syntia in turn can learn from my example and develop a more effective relationship with her body than I have done thus far. On the ticks, here in South Africa ticks don’t carry Lyme disease luckily, but yes, they can transfer tick bite fever and this is definitely what Syntia experienced. Thank you for your recommendations, I’ll check them out!!
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